Don't base your life on other people's experiences

Before I moved to Johannesburg people would tell me not to move up here cause you're always stuck in traffic and that you can't survive in Johannesburg without a car.

Well guess what, I've been here for over a year and I've never experienced traffic and I survived here for for nine months without a car.

Don't get me wrong, there is traffic in Joburg and to some, living without a car is hard, but that was their experience not mine.

So don't allow people's experiences to stop you from living out your dreams. Do a little research as to how you can avoid their horrible situations.
Like in my case I stayed close to work so I could just walk there, therefore I didn't need a car cause the nearest mall was also very close by. I only bought a car when I was finacially capable of doing so.

Oh they'd go on about that it's faster than my hometown, people will influence you into doing bad... seriously the people I've met so far are the most down to earth and the nicest people in the world.

Yea that's just my lil lesson learn't :)

Loving someone who annoys you

Loving someone who annoys you or has habits which are irritating is not easy.
However by looking at Jesus it's evident that love isn't easy cause it requires sacrifice or giving up of yourself.

Jesus gave up his throne in heaven & lived here on earth, then he continued and gave up his life as a sacrifice for our sins. He gave up so much of himself, simply because he loved us.

In order to show our brothers and sisters love we might have to sacrifice certain shallow charactristics which we've allowed to take residence in our hearts, like anger & impatience. These maybe things we have to sacrifice so that we can love our brothers & sisters.

The only way in which a romatic relationship can survive is if selflessness drives the relationship. You have to give up your time for date nights, special messages to make not you happy but your partner happy. You always have to keep in mind what makes the other person happy so that they'll want to continue being with you. You then give of yourself to do what makes your partner happy.

Same with loving our brothers and sisters, we have to be selfless, there's something we have to give up, and giving up something is never easy, that's why loving our brothers & sisters can seem hard at times.

More lessons for singles-hunters and visual creatures

Men are hunters and they are visual creatures.

For some1 to be attracted to you first, he would have noticed your looks or the way you conduct yourself, your walk, ladyness etc.

Then he'd hunt for you, after he's seen what he likes.

The hunting and visualness doesn't end when you're dating,he's still the same hunter and still visual.
In your relationship let him hunt for you, and stay beautiful so that he hunts for you. Don't be the one always making dates, always asking when y'all are gonna see each other. Let him hunt for dates around your busy schedule. He might complain that youre not always there but doing otherwise will cost you the relationship no matter how much he complains.

Sexyness and being a christian Lady

So Meagan Good got some real hate for doing a burlesque show as she is a christian lady and many felt that it was the unchristian thing to do.

Well you know, I love Meagan, I look up to her and find inspiration in certain parts of her life, so what do I think of it? I think it's her personal faith and relationship with God.

If we all concentrated on our own personal relationship with God we wouldn't have time to judge other people, which the bible does say is ungodly.

What I admired about the interview she did on the whole thing of people judging her about her doing a burlesque show is that she said that she has a relationship with God, she talks to God and he has not convicted her of being sexy.

While I'm writing this I'm reminded of this scripture

John 21:21-22

New International Version (NIV)

21 When Peter saw him, he asked, “Lord, what about him?” 22 Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.”

So the question is, what's it to us and we should "follow" Jesus and stop judging other people and how christian are they are or not.

When Jesus said in the above verse "what is that to you, You must follow me"

He was saying stop focusing on other people's christian life, instead your focus should be on your own christian life and relationship with God.

Sometimes I look at other woman in church and think to myself, wow they're so spiritual cause they can speak in tongues, prophesy etc. From Meagan Good's interview I've realized that my personal relationship with God is no less than someone else's. It's special. Being super religious doesn't mean you have God's heart more. God loves us all with the same amount of love, which is unconditional and unlimited.

Also I shouldn't be concerned about them and their relationship with God cause as the above scripture says, what's it to me? I should be concerned with following Jesus.

I've also learn't that I shouldn't look down on my quite time with God by constantly reading revelations other woman have had just because they head a church or something.

In my quite time is the time in which God speaks to me about my personal circumstances so that I won't be led astray by different views and advises.

Cause sometimes we think that what worked for someone in a situation will work for us, but everyone's life is different and the answers we need to apply to our own personal situations we get from God through spending time with him.

The commandment which Jesus left us with is to love one another, I personally don't know Meagan Good well but reading her tweets,answering her followers, the way in which she answers interviews... She exudes that Godly love and love is what Jesus said we'd be identified by as his disciples.

Wise Words from Meagan Good on Singleness and Marriage

"One thing I would say to all woman is DON'T SETTLE CAUSE IT IS OUT THERE it does exist.GOD IS SO MUCH BIGGER & GREATER THAN WHAT OUR SMALL MINDS CAN THINK, what we think is impossible is absolutely possible, and I'm definitely living proof of that and my marriage is definetly living proof of that" Meagan Good

God created it

Psalm 24:1 (NIV) The earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it,
the world, and all who live in it;

I find myself having negative emotions to certain things, well most people have had a negative view on things like marriage, eating meat,wealth etc but then I'm reminded that all these things were made of God. Just because man has pervesed the things of God, God had made them for good but we've used them for bad.

I was listening to this one pastor speak and he was saying that there's only one way of doing things and that's Gods way (holy,pure and righteously). When we do things in another way, they may succeed for a short while but sooner or later they will fail. When we do things God's way, we may face trial and tribulation for a short while, but soon we succeed.

Psalm 37 (NIV)

"1 Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong;
2 for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away.
3 Trust in the Lord and do good;dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
4 Take delight in the Lord,and he will give you the desires of your heart.
5 Commit your way to the Lord;trust in him and he will do this:
6 He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun.

When people use evil ways to get the things that God has created, the above Psalm says this will happen"2 for like the grass they will soon wither, like

green plants they will soon die away. "Many times we see this happening to people and we then think that it was Gods creation that caused this (wealth or marriage), but in actual fact it was the way in which they obta

ined what God has created.

There are some of Gods blessings which we have to trust for Gods appointed time to receive them, but while the above psalm says we trust God to receive them, we don't just sit around and do nothing and say we're trusting God but then we are to "3 .... do

good" We are to be doing something good while we trust God.

So never stop desiring good things just because you've seen someone fail or get divorced, what ever it maybe was created by God and we'll receive it and it will be ours for a long time if go about pursuing them in Gods way.

The importance of gratitude

The stresses of life can weigh us down, when all we see are troubles we can become so hopeless, Was reading a devotional by Joseph Prince when he said that we should be grateful for the little we have and it will be multiplied.

He talked about how Jesus took that little boys bread loaves and fish, he gave it thanks and as a result it multiplied.
So b e grateful for the little you have, there are people in this world who are going through worse. People stuck in the middle of a war torn country who'd give anything to sleep without hearing gunshots.

One of the greatest miracles Jesus peformed was raising Lazaraus from the dead. When he did this he first gave thanks for God hearing him.

Gratitiude honestly can change one's lives, it shifts your view from what you don't have to what you have and this makes you see the things that God has given you instead of what you don't have.

People kill themselves when they don't see that things God has done, being grateful for the little. That's why continual thankfullness is an attitude we need to cultivate each day.

It's really changing my life.

Forcing something

These past two days I've learn't about force.
Forcing a situation which we know will turn sour. Both these incidents are from my new experience in driving.My sister left her toiletries at my place because she didnt want to carry baggage with her at school. Then she expected me to drive and deliver these toiletries to her at night after I was done with my lectures. Mind you I had come out of work, had to go to lectures from five till eight then I had to go back home and fetch her stuff from my place then deliver them to her place and go back home again, to top it all of it's at night, I'm not a good driver, I don't know the area well and this is Johannesburg, not the safest city.
So due to the obove I did not take those things to her place for her. So the next day I got out of my night lectures early so I drove to her place & took them for her and I got terribly lost on my way back home, cause the GPS was taking me round in circles and I didn't know the area well & to top it all off it was at night.

That was her and my lesson that I shouldn't have forced a situation which I could see had a red robot. Listen to what your hearts says, it's where God dwells in you.
Again in terms of my parking I was forcing a situation of parking in a steep hill area which wasn't straight.
My car cut into the gate.

I've learn't that when one see's a red robot they should stop. That's all

Tough times

Today at church they were doing a teaching from the book of Daniel.

This is what I took from it and needed to hear; God was with Daniel and the other hebrew men when they were placed in the burning furnance, Jesus was seen in there with them.

Just like how Jesus was with Daniel, Shadrack,Meschack and Abednigo, He'll be with us to during times of fire (hard times). We'll go through tough times but God will go through them with us and takes us out unharmed and unburnt just like how the Hebrew men were not burnt by the fire.

Also in terms of purity, we must be like Daniel and refuse to conform to the world we live in, they were put into the burning furnance because they refused to bow down to an Idol.
When they had to face fire because of obeying God, God took them out and promoted them to a greater level.
Love is an action, we can show God we love him by living for him and not ourselves and this is what the Hebrew men did.

Words

I was going through a tough time, I was so down, shacken and emotionally drained. I began talking to my mother and told her what I was going through, I began to see the light in the darkness, simply from my mothers words.

Words seem so unimportant yet they are. We use them so carelessly not realising how much power we have just through them.

We can change someone's situation just through simple encourangement. We can make a young girls confidence by just telling them that they are beautiful inside and out.

"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words won't harm me." That's not true, words harm more than sticks and stones.

There are certain things you can think but there's no need to say because you could really be wipping someone emotionally.

Rather keep quite if you have nothing good to say. Also recently I needed a miracle from God, for something which seemed impossible, I would sometimes ask myself if I was being serious on thinking I would get it, my mother once again encouraged me that it would happen even though she knew that the odds were so against me, she didn't say this, she spoke positive words. Someone could have just been like "you know what lets just be realistic about this" but she didn't look at reality, she just spoke positively.And guess what? I ended up getting what I needed. Why? cause with God the impossible is possible.

Her words fed my faith!

I think going forth, I really need to watch my words, be kind, speak love & encouragement to other people cause we are feeding each others faith.

The fight continues

I'm sure I've written about this before...
But I just remembered it again.

When it feels like you always have to fight in order to go forward, remember this, With every progress the Israelits made with their journey to the promised land came a new tribe/nation which would try to stop them from reaching the promised land.
And just like how God fought for the Israelities, he'll fight for you to.

Never give up, don't complain. God is still in the business of peforming miracles.He provided for their every need during the journey, he's about to do the same thing today.

He's so creative

One thing I've been recently learning about God is that he's creative. From the old testament to the new, he displays his creative power. He's miracles are never the same for every person.

In the old testament we see this in the two miracles of water gushing out of a rock. In the first water miracle God told Moses to hit the rock and water would come out, and indeed it did. Then later on God told Moses to speak to the rock and water would come out, but instead Moses hit the rock ( We've all expected God to do something in a manner which he did it in the past, we're so wrong). Because of his disobedience God didn't allow him to enter the promised land. (Exodus 17:6) (Numbers 20:9-12)

In the new testament Jesus healed people with the same afflictions differently.In Matthew 9:29 Jesus touches the eyes of two blind men in order to heal them. Then in John 9:6 Jesus creates mud from saliva and spreads the mud over the mans eyes in order to heal him.

So what have I learn't about God being creative with regards to my life? I've learn't that my journey will never be like someone else's. He's already planned my life (Jer29:11) and his plan for my life is unique and it's been tailor made to suit me. Also his process or manner of provision for me will not be the same as some one else (like the story of the blind men) and the manner in which he provides sometimes changes (like the story of Moses and the gushing water)


Isaiah 43:18
" Do not (earnestly) remember the former things, neither consider the things of old. (19) Behold, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs forth; do you not perceive and know it, and will you not give heed to it. I will even make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the dessert."

Perfection ain't perfect

Since I've moved up to the province of Gauteng I've moved to alot of different places. I first worked in Edenvale where I shared a flate with a girl who was a real dear, she'd give me amazing advice, we're still friends to this day.Then I got a job in Centurion, then I shared a flate with a girl who was also quite neat and tidy in her ways, we didn't get along, we were quite different.The last girl I stayed with in Centurion wasn't quite the neat freak. She'd often admit it her self how she loves a clean place but is just so hopeless at keeping it clean, that was my dear Lillian :).Out of all the girls I stayed with in centurion I enjoyed staying with the girl who wasn't the neatest of people the most,Lillian. She was so relaxed, never sweeping behind me, or complaining about how the cups are not in their right place. I had peace of mind staying there, never feeling like I've done something wrong or wondering if what I'm doing is not according to her standards of neatness. The funny thing is, with all the girls I stayed with, we divided the rent equally, however the rules were not equal because the lease was in their name and they'd arrived there before me. But not with Lillian, she didnt have that mindset. Because of my previous flatemates, when I'd arrived to stay with Liilian, I asked her "where can i put my cups" she was like "oh goodness, anywhere this is your flat to, we're paying equal rent" And that day was the beginnig of a great friendship.You know it's taught me alot, there's just no need to be perfect and have everything all in place. Be organised but leave some space, for what, should I say a relaxed atmosphere. Don't have people feeling so upity, that they're scared of you cause you want things a certain way.Guess that's why men talk about the nagging wife. it's not cool to nag, or be to be a perfectionist.That's a major lesson I learn't