Men are hunters and they are visual creatures.
For some1 to be attracted to you first, he would have noticed your looks or the way you conduct yourself, your walk, ladyness etc.
Then he'd hunt for you, after he's seen what he likes.
The hunting and visualness doesn't end when you're dating,he's still the same hunter and still visual.
In your relationship let him hunt for you, and stay beautiful so that he hunts for you. Don't be the one always making dates, always asking when y'all are gonna see each other. Let him hunt for dates around your busy schedule. He might complain that youre not always there but doing otherwise will cost you the relationship no matter how much he complains.