One thing I've learn't is that there is no one size fits all in life, we all have different experiences and stories.
I Was watching basketball wives last night and I could totally feel the one wife. What happened was, that all the other wives had already decided what the future of her marriage was gona be like. They based this on what had happened to their marriages. They believed that because she was just another basketball wife, her marriage was doomed for failure. The thing is her husband wasn't like their husbands, she knew the elements of her marriage. She had something good going on with her man, and it was just quite sad how people thought it was gonna fail just cause theirs had.
You just gotta know yourself and situation well cause people can end up leading you astray.
For example your friend might strip for her boyfriend on his birthday and his reaction might have been really positive and thought she's the best girlfriend ever. Then you attempt the same thing for your boyfriend and he becomes utterly disgusted by what you did. See it's about knowing your situation and the unique elements in it, then making a decision from that and not from what your friend has gone through.
Yeah we might all experience the same thing when it comes to certain situations like for example baby mamas, mostly all the time, they do infact create drama, it is what it is. Il never know why until I have my own baby (hopefully in wedlock), so I aint about to judge them cause I aint walking in their shoes.
But then I really feel like I need to trust my own intuition, I can't rely on peoples advice cos what I've realised is that most people just think you're gonna relive what they've been through, they base their advice on their own experiences. Honestly every situation is unique and has elements which make it differ from everyone elses, and these elements are what I should base my decision on and not what people say.
Also I always seem to think that history is gonna repeat itself in my life and thats just as bad as thinking that I'm gona relive someone elses experience.
So thats where I'm at right now...learning to trust my own advice and intuition and I'm just gonna step away from relying solely on peoples experiences and advice in trying to make a decision...
